Count Your Blessings

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Count Your Blessings


It’s quite an old-fashioned thing to say but in the world of today where people are more concerned about what other people think of them and stressing about looking a certain way, I think it’s important to take a step back and be grateful for what we already have!


I have two young children and my daughter is starting to become overwhelmed by her emotions, I keep explaining to her that’s it perfectly normal and to try not to worry about it too much but in my head,  I can feel myself getting stressed when I know other girls in her class are making snidy comments and making her feel self-conscious.

I know it’s all part of growing up, but it still makes my blood boil! Girls my daughters’ age shouldn’t be worrying about who has the latest phone or demanding to be the centre of attention 24/7, it wasn’t like that when I was younger, I was too busy climbing trees and playing hide and seek!

I try and remind my children how lucky they are to have nice things and to live in a nice house and they are pretty good kids, they take it all on board and very rarely complain.

I’m constantly praised for their behaviour when they are out and how polite/well-mannered they are (until they get home), yet I still question my parenting abilities?!


Just as my daughter worries about what her friends think, I too worry about people thinking I suck at parenting.


Luckily, I have amazing friends that give me a bollocking when I’m having one of those moments and remind me that I am doing a pretty good job and that my kids are living proof of that!


So, don’t stress if you haven’t crafted this year, taken your kids to the park every day or given them three healthy meals a day, count your blessings, they have a roof over their heads, food in their bellies and someone who loves them, after all, isn’t that all that matters?


Mel is a Personal Trainer, Fitness Tutor and Blogger, she is passionate about what she does and her blogs represent her opinion (and she is pretty opinionated!).


  1. Gem

    Couldn’t agree more, I don’t think it helps when school nurses weigh and measure children, for them to then be told they are over weight/underweight at the age of 4/5. Bodies are still developing at that age, and this can be the start of negative thinking for a child. Sometimes it’s not about what they are eating it’s more to do with the movement and activity of the child.

    I have just read a article about an actress who was pregnant while on call the midwife. Some ‘troll’ has posted to say she should be removed from tv and put on a diet, now if we are having these comments made by adults what hope have we got for our children, if there parents are speaking this way. What hope do we have for there children to be positive about life and other people.

    Being a parent is hard because we want to protect them from all this negativity and nastiness, but the best we can do is show positivity and teach them how to embrace life.

    A little off topic from your post I know but I do think negativity and ‘stereotypes’ are imbedded from a young age now.

    1. Mel Carpenter

      Totally agree Gem – So many more things to worry about these days than when we were kids x

  2. Ellen Neal

    Well said Mel. I had all those worries when my daughter was little and I still worry now although she’s nearly 18. You try not to get involved but can’t help it and I found sometimes it’s how the other girls are being raised for them to be horrible, which is out of your control. We do our best and I’m proud of my daughter and take full credit for raising her right.

    1. Mel Carpenter

      Cheers Hun, I want her to be independent, she isn’t timid but she has been feeling overwhelmed lately and the last couple of weeks have been tough for her.

      I’ve been into the school today so I’m hoping this is the end of it.

      I appreciate you commenting and sharing your experience with me, it helps xx

  3. Clare

    We all worry about not being good enough as a parent. It just shows how much we love our kids, wanting only the best for them. You are doing a fab job hun. After all, it is true, there is no manual with kids!

    1. Mel Carpenter

      Thanks Clare, I agree, I think questioning yourself shows that you care!

      I’m never gonna change so I guess I need to toughen up a bit more!!

      Thanks for taking the time to comment xx

  4. Diane Jordan

    Sadly Mel my daughters 15 almost 16 and it gets no better kids are cruel. But we really do have to count our blessings I tended to a lady feeling unwell lying on floor outside my office she had a little boy of 3 with her just sitting looking lost. We chatted for a while until she felt better she said her friends son was still in the screen he was 10, she brought him as a treat as his mom had died the week before and she didn’t want to ruin it for him. She felt so ill but wasn’t letting him down. No matter how shit things get we are the bloody lucky ones ❤️

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