Break Free From ‘Likes’ – The effects of Social Media

Break Free From ‘Likes’


Social Media

Social Media has done wonders for man (and Woman) kind – it allows us to contact people we never would’ve had the means to do so.

It’s reduced the six degrees of separation down to something like 4.8! It allows small business owners (like myself) a level playing field with the big boys. If we don’t like who we are, we can reinvent ourselves over and over again across a multitude of platforms!

Now you’re probably wondering why I would include that last point amongst so many positives and I’m hoping that I have grabbed your attention by doing so.

Six degrees of separation is the idea that all living things and everything else in the world are six or fewer steps away from each other so that a chain of “a friend of a friend” statements can be made to connect any two people in a maximum of six steps. It was originally set out by Frigyes Karinthy in 1929 and popularized in an eponymous 1990 play written by John Guare.

I work in the Fitness Industry – I’m a Personal Trainer, a former Pro dancer and a Fitness Presenter.

Mel is a Personal trainer and mom of two  Mel presenting at the Scottish Salsa Congress

With each of those titles comes an immense amount of pressure. Pressure to look good, sound good, and be an all-round successful individual.

It’s a recipe for disaster if you suffer from low self-esteem and a desperate need for approval from others.

At certain points in my career, I have encountered both – The pressure to be as skinny as the international performers, to wear the latest dance gear, no matter the cost! To have the latest gadgets etc., the list goes on!

Online Persona

When you are online, it’s easy to portray all that is expected of you – No matter the mood you are in nor the crappy day you’ve had.

Yet, there is an additional pressure that comes with Social Media, the like syndrome.

Waiting for that seal of approval that comes with the notification:

  • ‘so and so liked your post’
  • ‘Your status has been seen xxxx times’
  • ‘Your video has been shared xxx times’

You tell yourself it’s not important, yet you have your phone glued to your hand. Your notifications are set and your attention is dragged away from your friends, family, children every time you hear a beep!

Support Network

In my opinion, everyone needs a support network. I have a great family who are very supportive, a fantastic set of friends and a wonderful husband. But not all are so lucky.

A lot of ladies who I work with suffer from low self-esteem and anxiety. Some of who are on medication for depression and have come to me for help.

I see myself in some of them, the need for approval through changing the way they look to the statuses they share on Social Media.


But it’s not all bad!

Through exercise and attending classes, a lot of these wonderful women are now good friends. They socialise together and they support one another! They recognise the signs in themselves, and others and when things are getting to them, they reach out!

Break Free!

I love what I do and although the need for approval may never truly disappear, through helping others, I can see that I am good at what I do!

In fact, I’m really good and that makes me feel satisfied, and it’s ok!

Mel is a Personal Trainer, Fitness Tutor and Blogger, she is passionate about what she does and her blogs represent her opinion (and she is pretty opinionated!).

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